Advice needed and appreciated.

Hi all. I’m new to this site and have really learned a lot browsing here. I’m 48 and live in NC. I have been dating a wonderful man for a few months who happens to be paralyzed. He is a relatively new injury, less than two years and I did not know him before. He is attractive, smart, confident and I love him. I can honestly say the disability doesn’t scare me at all. We are very comfortable with each other and the communication is open and honest.
So this is my issue… I understand that he has always been a very sexual person. I love intimacy with him and have no complaints. Except, he has an obsession with dirty talk. I often feel like he cheapens what we have. I’ve explained that and he says to some degree it is an escape for him. I get that and have been just dealing with it. He is unable to ejaculate and I understand that it is very frustrating for him. I love him and want to make him happy. Lately he has become obsessed with me reaching climax. He even acts like I’m the one with the inability to do so and wants to “fix” me. This isn’t the case. I’ve begged him to just enjoy our time together and let things happen naturally. He seems to expect and even demand that I climax on command. I consider our sexual time together as making love because I do love him dearly. He CONTINUES to pressure me and has gone so far as to imply that because I haven’t climaxed our sex life is lacking. He is very demanding that I do and gets angry when I don’t. There is way to much pressure here for me to handle. I love him and feel like he is cheapening what we have. No matter, how or how much I discuss this with him, the pressure and the insinuation that something is wrong with me continues. He has become very confrontational and even mean about this issue. Can anyone please advise me??? I don’t want to lose this man but I’m on the verge of throwing in the towel. I feel like the love I have for him doesn’t even matter. Please advise!!! Thanks in advance. Scout
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