Hi there, Graham suggested I post here and see if I can get some more advice from anyone on this site. I’m able bodied and met a paraplegic guy on an online dating site. We met and really hit it off and have been on 4 subsequent dates and are in constant contact. Thing is, he seems to be withdrawing / fearful of getting involved in a relationship and I don’t know how to handle this. He hints at spending the weekend / staying over at my place but then cancels or has other plans last minute. I’ve rearranged my house so he can move around with ease, he has easy access to the bathroom, a designated parking spot with ample space for the doors to open and nothing lies around to annoy him. My house is clutter free and he seems to get around rather well here.
I have a 3 month old son whom he adores and is very excited to see whenever he visits. We’ve snogged up a few storms and there’s some real chemistry here but now it seems to be going a bit frosty. How do I approach this? In many ways its like any other relationship – he’s a nice guy that I really like a lot – I just don’t understad the dynamics here. I just don’t want to withdraw because I don’t understand his needs or be too pushy and lose him anyway.
He’s very active and has loads of friends so it’s not a self esteem issue as far as I can tell….
Can anyone please shed some light on starting a new relationship with a paraplegic guy? Are there do’s and don’ts? Any advice will be much appreciated as I’m convinced this is something worth working at.
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